A: The best way to meet these challenges is with creativity, flexibility, patience and compassion. You can’t change the person you are caring for because they have a brain disorder that has shaped who they have become. Trying to control the changed behavior will most likely be unsuccessful or at the very least, be met with resistance. So, what can you do? Try to accommodate the behavior, not control it. Don’t contradict their memories or who they think they are or what they think they are doing or what they might be planning to do. Remember, their behavior has a purpose – people with dementia typically can’t tell us what they want or need. Behavior is triggered – something someone said or did or a change in environment. What works one day may not work the next. Brainstorm or get ideas from others. As a caregiver, make time for yourself – take a break, get help, eat well, exercise, sleep well, get support from support groups. Don’t try to do this alone. If you would like more information, please call and get help. Call 208-478-6677 and ask for Leticia.